Previously, being in a relationship was thought to be a
desirable situation. That was when our mothers were girls and our dads’ cattle
herders. Every girl and boy desired to get married or to marry someday. They
would actually look forward to it. Oh! The joy they saw in being marriage.
They had faith in the institutions and they would withstand
any challenge that came along for example, abuse, poverty, diseases,
miscarriages, stigma, among other ills. Forgiveness and perseverance was the
order of the day. This they did with the focus on raising their children. And
to that they were successful.
Fast forward to today and you immediately lose faith in the
institution. Chaos characterizes marriage. Competition among the spouses is what
is keeping the partners busy. Everyone wants to outdo the other to appear
better. Unfaithfulness among partners is rising. The killer disease HIV/AIDS is
plaguing couples as acid does to metal.
Myriad questions have crossed my mind. Is marriage desirable
anymore? Should we yearn for the problems experienced in marriage when we can
comfortably stay single and enjoy the pleasures of independence? Should we even
think about it? Is it not logical to stay single to reduce the statistics of
broken marriages?
No matter how hard we try, we can only change the dosage, the timing of taking the dose but we cannot change the medicine. It stands tall, unmoved, unbowed.
ReplyDeleteFamily life cements the society. It moulds us, giving us the values of love, patience and hope. There is no family without marriage. I think we should get married but do something about the moral decay in our families. I also rest my case.
I agree with you Njenga, the entrant to the marriage should do so with knowledge of what they are getting into. Some goes in with unrealistic expectation and end up utterly disappointed hence the source of friction. People should seek knowledge and wisdom of God before they pludge themselves in.
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