Previously, being in a relationship was thought to be a
desirable situation. That was when our mothers were girls and our dads’ cattle
herders. Every girl and boy desired to get married or to marry someday. They
would actually look forward to it. Oh! The joy they saw in being marriage.
They had faith in the institutions and they would withstand
any challenge that came along for example, abuse, poverty, diseases,
miscarriages, stigma, among other ills. Forgiveness and perseverance was the
order of the day. This they did with the focus on raising their children. And
to that they were successful.
Fast forward to today and you immediately lose faith in the
institution. Chaos characterizes marriage. Competition among the spouses is what
is keeping the partners busy. Everyone wants to outdo the other to appear
better. Unfaithfulness among partners is rising. The killer disease HIV/AIDS is
plaguing couples as acid does to metal.
Myriad questions have crossed my mind. Is marriage desirable
anymore? Should we yearn for the problems experienced in marriage when we can
comfortably stay single and enjoy the pleasures of independence? Should we even
think about it? Is it not logical to stay single to reduce the statistics of
broken marriages?
